It is not love

“When one really cares, the self is forgotten, and the sacrifice only becomes part of the activity. Ask yourself: if there is something you supremely want to do, do you count as self-sacrifice the difficulties encountered of the other possible activities cast aside? You do not. The time when you deliberately say, ‘I must sacrifice this, that or the other’ is when you do not supremely desire the end in view. At such times you are only doing your duty, and that is admirable, but it is not love. But as soon as your duty becomes your love the self-sacrifice is taken for granted, and whatever the world calls it, you call it so no longer.”

-Dorothy Sayers